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SUMMARY:BDSM for Beginners
DESCRIPTION:“BDSM for Beginners” is right for you if……you have no BDSM experience yet\, or only a little. \n… …you’re curious about the world of BDSM. \n… …you’re looking for first impulses and insights into BDSM without going into practice. \nDescription:BDSM can hardly be explained in two sentences—the field is far too diverse: styles of play\, dynamics\, intensities\, fantasies\, and settings are all interconnect. In our “BDSM for Beginners” workshop\, we’ll give you clear orientation and a safe framework for getting started.  \nThis evening is for anyone who’s curious but hasn’t found a good starting point yet\, as well as for anyone who wants to understand BDSM beyond clichés. \nYou’ll get answers to questions such as: \n\nWhat belongs to the field of BDSM?\nWhich clichés are particularly persistent—and what\, if anything\, is true about them?\nWhich terms come up again and again\, and what do they mean in practice?\nHow do you get started in a way that feels safe\, respectful\, and right for you?\nWhat should newcomers know first?\n\nThe focus is on input and context. Jay and Sir Chris are active in different areas of BDSM and share real-life experience—as examples and perspectives\, not as “this is how it has to be.” That way\, you get orientation without limiting yourself.   \nYou can let the content sink in at your own pace and then decide how—and whether—you want to explore further. If you’d like\, we’ll give you concrete ideas and resources to take with you.  \nA central part is Consent:How do we negotiate desires and boundaries? What exactly does “informed consent” mean in the BDSM context? How do safewords and check-ins work – and why is aftercare key for many experiences?   \nWhether you’re drawn to dominance or submission\, whether you want to start gently or are looking for intensity: you’re welcome. We’re looking forward to seeing you.  \nScheduleThe “BDSM for Beginners” workshop has the following structure: \n\nArriving: framework\, how we interact\, safer space principles\nBDSM 101: terms\, myths\, basic concepts\nThe diversity of BDSM: styles of play\, dynamics\, settings\, intensities\nWhy BDSM: needs\, motivations\, the role of the nervous system\nConsent & safety: negotiation\, boundaries\, safewords/check-ins\, aftercare\nFinding your way in: first steps\, communication tools\, resources for home\nOpen Q&A: 30 minutes for anything you want to know\n\nPrices & Tickets:Price: €25 \nBook your ticket here via Eventfrog or message us on JoyClub for your JoyClub discount. \nWhat to bring\nCuriosity\ncomfortable clothing (whatever you feel good in)\nsomething to write with (if you’d like to take notes)\n\nLanguage:The workshop will be held in German. \nAbout the facilitators:Jay and Chris are the people behind Refugium—and also the kinksters behind the BDSM Studio Refugium Divine (in the same building). They share their experience honestly\, thoughtfully\, and as equals.  \nSir ChrisAn empathetic Dom with a great joy for play and experimentation. He combines clarity\, humor\, and presence – and shapes intensity as a conscious\, consensual game.  \nJay StarkFetish escort and switch with many insights into different dynamics. Jay finds it important to break down prejudices and make BDSM visible as a diverse field – beyond shame and clichés.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/bdsm-for-beginners/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
CATEGORIES:BDSM
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SUMMARY:(Re)discover Your Body – Somatic Movement & Butoh Basics (beginner-friendly)
DESCRIPTION:This workshop is for you\, if you …\nwant to enjoy moving again (without performance pressure)\nas a bodyworker or massage therapist\, you’re looking for new tools & inspiration\nare a dancer\, actor or performer wanting new impulses and presence\nare curious about Butoh as an exploratory practice (no experience needed)\n\nDescription:A down-to-earth movement workshop for people who want to move – also for bodyworkers and curious beginners.\nIn this two-day workshop\, Stefano Taiuti shares a practical\, somatic approach to movement: how movement works from the inside – through sensation\, awareness\, and intention. This way\, your body becomes more accessible and expressive\, and movement feels really good again (or for the first time).  \nYou don’t need a dance background. The workshop is especially suitable for bodyworkers and massage therapists – as well as for dancers\, actors\, performers\, and anyone who wants to reconnect with their body in a realistic\, non-dogmatic way.  \nWhat you’ll take home: \n\nsimple tools to access movement through felt sense (somatic awareness)\nmore ease\, range and clarity in your movement\nButoh-inspired practices for subtlety\, intensity and expression\nguided improvisation with imagery (“dance by images”)\nideas you can integrate into your practice\, training or creative work\n\nHow we’ll work (modular structure) \nEach session explores one quality of movement through: \n\nwarm-up & stretching\nsomatic movement exploration + Butoh basics\n“dance by images” (guided movement improvisation)\n\nPartner exercises may be included\, always optional. \nThere is floorwork (working on the ground). Stefano adapts intensity and exercises to the level and needs of the group. \nWhat is Butoh?Butoh\, (in)famously\, defies description. It is often reduced only to an examination of the striking imagery it sometimes produces (grotesque contortions\, stark white make-up etc.)\, but the heart of Butoh is in the process.   \nButoh presents an exploratory series of tools for finding the body\, and learning to be in control of losing control. It is a practice that\, fundamentally\, asks us to fully confront ourselves as inseparable from our ailing bodies and the universe they bleed and dissolve into.  \nIn simple terms:\nButoh is a movement practice that opens up new ways of moving through awareness\, inner imagery\, and sensation – often subtle\, sometimes intense\, always explorative. It’s not about looking “right\,” but about discovering the body from the inside out. \n“The Spiritual Mechanism”What is behind a movement? What does it generate\, both visibly and invisibly? “The Spiritual Mechanism”\, as Stefano calls it\, is a unique approach to dance and self discovery. Stefano integrates western movement analyses focusing on the visible\, and Butoh to explore the invisible\, the subtle. \nAbout Stefano:Stefano Taiuti is a performance artist\, Butoh dancer\, and bodyworker. For over 30 years\, he has explored the moving body as a tool of expression\, trained with renowned mime teachers and Butoh masters\, and developed his own methodology from this\, combining Western movement analysis with Butoh.  \nThe founders of the Refugium met him as a teacher in the Lomi Ausbildung Berlin – and immediately knew that we wanted to invite him to Aschaffenburg for a workshop. \nTickets:120€ per person \nWhat to bringComfortable clothing that allows you to move \nGood to know:The workshop will be in English. \nGet your ticket now
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/rediscover-your-body-somatic-movement-butoh-basics-beginner-friendly/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
CATEGORIES:Bodywork
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SUMMARY:Kinky Flow Massage Ritual
DESCRIPTION:This workshop is for you if:… you want to consciously touch people\, even on a soulful level. \n… you are curious about how to incorporate imagination into a session. \n… you want to learn new things. \nWho is the workshop for?Individuals or partner constellations (not a couples workshop) \nNo prior experience in massage or kink necessary. \n  \nDescription:At first glance\, Lomi Lomi-inspired sensual massage and the world of kink seem full of contradictions. \nKink is about the consensual exploration of intense stimulation\, sensations\, and feelings\, and the conscious exploration of surrender\, vulnerability\, and power. It includes fiery aspects of desire and erotica\, but can also be meditative\, relaxing\, or playful. “To be able to let yourself go without being dropped…” a participant told us after our workshop.   \nIn traditional Hawaiian Lomi Lomi massage\, broad\, sweeping strokes flow from head to toe\, simultaneously over and under the entire body. It’s like being embraced by the swirling waves of the ocean and its quiet depths. Simply surrendering into loving hands\, into warm\, soothing touch. Feeling grounded and deeply moved.    \nKinky Flow is created when we merge the security-providing qualities of Lomi touch with creative\, loving\, and erotic elements from kink. A practice of its own\, something completely new!  \nWe will explore how to gradually infuse dominance into massage practice\, how to develop empathy and non-verbal communication\, how to negotiate consent\, and how to create a safe space. \nWe will playfully integrate kink into a range of gentle dominance practices: e.g.\, playing with shame\, being visible with your own desire\, and staging surprising moments. But also physically: light strikes (spanking)\, hair pulling\, body fixation\, seduction\, and denial.  \nKinky Flow celebrates the combination of sensual massage and kink and their shared core principle: listening deeply to the body with empathy and respect – to support it in embarking on a unique inner journey\, discovering other aspects of oneself\, and perhaps even finding new perspectives. \nPleasure happens between the ears!Therefore\, alongside the practice\, we will focus extensively on one of our favorite topics: imagination and your own “mental cinema.” A valuable quality that requires awareness to be stimulated.  \nJana and Stefano’s approach is playful\, creative\, and intuitive\, based on trust and consent. Their rich experience gives you impulses on how to find a YES to your power and vulnerability\, intimacy and surrender with joy and curiosity.  \nYou will get to know new principles (instead of just following techniques). You will experience how your inner attitude can support you when you link action and emotions. Above all\, you will learn to trust yourself when leading and/or surrendering. You will become increasingly confident in building a dynamic arc of tension for the intensity of a session\, reading body language\, and letting yourself be guided by the pleasurable desire of the person receiving.    \nDuring these three days\, Jana and Stefano see themselves as your travel companions. They guide you lovingly and challenge you—on the way to your adventure\, an encounter with yourself.  \nPlay with us and rediscover yourself! In the end\, we surprise ourselves.  \nSCHEDULEDay 1: Basics of Lomi Lomi Massage \nDay 2: Basics of Kink\, Consent (recognizing and communicating your own desires and boundaries) + Play possibilities \nDay 3: Deepening Kinky Flow as a Kinky Massage Ritual \nEach day you will have the opportunity to give and receive one massage. \nAbout the facilitators:Jana and Stefano have been inspiring people with their Kinky Flow workshops for many years. Both are body workers and massage instructors at Lomi-Ausbildung-Berlin. Jana is also a breath therapist and Stefano is a dancer (Butoh).   \nBoth Jana and Stefano have extensive BDSM and kink experience. \nPrices & Tickets:Tickets are available via Eventfrog. \nWhat to bringYou will receive a detailed packing list with plenty of notice. \nNotes:This is a mixed-gender workshop. All identities and orientations are welcome.  A workshop for individuals and partner constellations (not a couples workshop). \nConsent is the basis for our interaction: we encourage you to be brave and careful\, to communicate your own needs and boundaries\, to take self-responsibility\, and to absolutely respect the boundaries of others.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/kinky-flow-massage-ritual/
CATEGORIES:BDSM,Lomi Lomi
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SUMMARY:Power – Dominance and submission with Andy Buru
DESCRIPTION:This workshop is for you if you:… are open to throwing your assumptions on BDSM and power dynamics over board.\n… are interested in exploring eros in a slow\, mindful way.\n… want to feel more with less.\n… want to explore your dominant side.\n… are looking for inspiration for your play. \nImportant notes:This workshop is for individuals. You’ll pair up in exercises and also join trios. You can always decline or sit out an exercise.\nIt is a sex-positive workshop\, not a sex-mandatory one.\nAlso\, the workshop is in English. No translation will be provided. \nDescription:Andy Buru‘s three-day experience on exploring POWER has been attracting international audiences since 2019. While the theme has remained the same\, the structure is constantly evolving. The group processes focus on the philosophical\, emotional\, or spiritual aspects of the eros\, not detailed teaching of techniques. \nRefugium founders Christian and Jay attended POWER in 2025\, and left forever changed. „I came to explore my dominant side\,“ says Jay\, „but discovered way more about my submission.“ \n\n„Power is the best workshop on BDSM dynamics I‘ve ever attended.“\n– Christian\, Refugium Founder \n\nHow does one explore power in the context of BDSM?\nAndy Buru will guide the group through a series of exercises designed to explore the facets of conscious power exchange. Core principles are of course consent. Andy will show how you can establish consent for the particular exercise with nonverbal communication. It‘s always clear if we are in play or outside of it.\nThis invites slowness. Feeling more with less. POWER does not teach the flashy techniques of BDSM but instead helps you find your inner truth. \nFor details see the „Freedoms & Responsibilities“ section below. \n\n„In a way\, it’s like a game of edging – coitus reservatus – to retain the energy within oneself – to ride the high\, higher and higher – with no goal other than to remain in the power play. If I\, as the dominant\, would instantly reach for my ultimate desire\, our scene would end shortly – even prematurely\, I would argue. If the pain and pleasure intensified too rapidly\, or if I would unearth every fetish and fantasy I ever had\, basically spurting the last drops of life\, metaphorically speaking\, of course – no more mystery would remain.“ \n\nBut the temptation is always there\, taunting us to lose control. Andy will show you glimpses of how you can attempt to remain\, „teasing myself indefinitely in these ritualic plays of the esoteric eros. How can I do that as the dominant without losing my vulnerability? Without numbing out my emotions\, without losing my deviant creativity\, without burning out as a give-always-and-only kink dispenser. We relentlessly keep exploring this paradox of power\, and that exploration is my invitation to you.“ \nScheduleFriday – 2pm to 10pm\nSaturday – 10am to 7pm\nRitualistic Play Party – 8pm to 10pm at Refugium Divine\nSunday – 10am to 6pm \nEach day will have a flexible lunch break. \nPrices & Tickets:Regular price: 350€ \nEarly Bird price: 320€ if you book before May 31st\, 2026. \nSecure your spot now via Eventfrog. \nWhat to bring\ncomfortable clothes for moving on the floor\nelegant\, fetishistic and/or hedonistic clothes for moving in hierarchies\nclothes for being messy\, or a readiness to be more naked\na tool for stingy pain\, maybe your grandma’s wooden kitchen spoon to an artisan-made 24-plait kangaroo leather single-tail\npen and paper for notetaking\n\nAbout Andy Buru:Born in Sweden but professionally nomadic\, Andy Buru spent the past twenty-five years as an owned slave\, a leather daddy\, a hedonist\, a purist\, a magician\, and a princess slut. \nAs a young kinky boi\, they spent the years of 2004 and 2005 roaming the backstreets of Kabukichö\, Tokyo and learning the ropes from people like Yukinaga Max\, the little/young Yukimura. Later\, they discovered the Berlin-based community of Schwelle7 and Xplore\, where art and sexuality intersect-and where they still teach today. \nIn 2017\, Andy made a smooth departure from the ordinary world\, ditching a career as an organisational coach at a large international tech company to dedicate their life to teaching\, writing\, and embodying sadomasochism as a lived research practice. Nowadays\, they spend six months of the year travelling and teaching\, and the other six months studying subjects such as tea\, flowers\, and theatre\, often in the misty mountains of Kumano\, Japan. \nIn 2024\, Andy released their book Rituals and Paradoxes: The Intimacy of Belonging in Sadomasochism and Esoteric Eroticism.\nYou can buy it on Andy‘s website or listen to it on Spotify. \nFurther readingWhile no preparation for this workshop is required\, Andy Buru's take on esoteric eroticism and ritualistic Sadomasochism is worth exploring. \n\nOne Take On Explaining Sadomasochism\nHow Do I Know If I Can Sacrifice Myself?\nExposing The Five Taboos Of Sadomasochism\nFour Languages Of Power\nDominance In Balance\nAdvice For The Dom At Heart\nAftercare For The Vulnerable Dominant\nListening Is The First Step To Domination\nBeing Clear About Pain\n\nFreedoms and responsibilitiesParticipating in these group processes is intimate and vulnerable. It is always a balancing act between freedom and responsibility – or selfishness and self-sacrifice – or safety and bravery. \nFinding oneself in either extreme can result in paralyzing fear or traumatizing chaos. Dancing on this slackline of mystery is the fundamental skill we practice together. \nBelow are seven almost universal freedoms and responsibilities to help you navigate these intimate and vulnerable spaces. \n1. Settle the score before you leave\nTo play\, one must be vulnerable. To be vulnerable\, one must trust. To trust\, one must know that someone will help ‘settle the score’ when hardship happens – that you are not alone. Preferably all the persons involved in whatever happened. Listening\, assuming accountability\, and saying I’m sorry often go a long way. Sometimes more is needed\, but at least by being there\, you enable this process. Leaving without settling the score means unfinished business and long-term damage to the social web we are trying to weave. \n2. Don’t kiss and tell\nAlso\, to be vulnerable\, one must trust that what I share with you – in words and actions – remains safe with you. You can always talk about your own experiences\, what happened to you\, and what you felt. But leave everyone else involved anonymous by not mentioning their names and being thoughtful with what details you reveal about them. \n3. Don’t cockblock vulnerability\nSimilarly\, to be vulnerable\, one must trust that vulnerability is met with respect. When uncomfortable with others’ vulnerability\, one often tries to make the vulnerable moments disappear by arguing for solutions\, diverting attention to silly jokes\, playing the devil’s advocate or playing the overprotective saviour. If someone can express their vulnerability in a storm of intense emotions\, watch them in awe – you likely have something to learn from them. You enable others’ vulnerability by being vulnerable yourself; you cockblock vulnerability by playing the tough guy who doesn’t give a shit about anything. \n4. Welcome all your emotions\nWhen I demonstrate a particular exercise\, there will be an emotional\, non-verbal dialogue with my assistant. Don’t try to copy our experience. Instead\, have your own journey. For me\, a group process is perfect when someone is laughing\, another is crying\, a third is moaning\, a fourth is confused\, and so on. Know that all parts of you are welcome. \n5. No fucking charity\nYou’ll pair up in exercises\, join trios and quadruplets\, and do group rituals. Even if you promised someone beforehand\, and it doesn’t feel right in the moment\, listen to the latter. Don’t do things out of charity. I take pride in trying to provide structures where it’s easy to opt out without creating an awkward situation for anyone. \n6. Play inside the play\, not outside\nDuring our group processes\, we have moments inside and outside of play. And we have rituals\, signs\, and language to move in and out. Some examples are entering a circle to indicate our willingness to play\, placing our arms across the chest for a break\, kneeling as a sign of submission\, and establishing eye contact before body contact. \nThe exact semantics may change\, but you must learn to distinguish and respect when play is happening and not. Inside\, you may play with power\, be seduced by it\, revel in it\, or rebel against it. Outside play\, avoid being a macho or mothering dominant\, as well as a helpless submissive or an assholish trickster. \n7. Knowing\, not knowing\nI’m not your Guru Buru\, nor your mommy or daddy. If anything I say doesn’t make sense to you\, don’t do it. Similarly\, the group processes are appreciated because they focus on the philosophical\, emotional\, or spiritual aspects of the eros\, not detailed teaching of techniques.\nSuppose a specific skill is foreign to you (like face slapping\, choking\, tying a rope around the neck\, pushing trigger points in the diaphragm\, guiding the spine through twisting the neck\, etc.); it is your responsibility to acknowledge this. Recognising the unknown can be tricky\, but it’s an essential meta-skill to manage risk-taking in your play. However\, the exact technique is often not the main point\, so you can ask me for an alternative or simply do your own thing. Sometimes\, I’ll also have time to guide you step-by-step. You can also ask before attending if you are worried that your previous experience isn’t enough. \nIf this text seems complicated to you…\n… you likely have a lot to learn from sharing intimate and vulnerable experiences in a group. Please notify the organizers if this is the case so I can keep an extra eye on you. If you have any questions or concerns\, feel free to ask beforehand or during the group process itself. If you have a lot of previous experience or a more senior position in the group\, I will have higher expectations of you to act as a role model. If you are new and insecure\, you’ll likely have more leeway to learn our culture. If you are deemed unable or unwilling to comply\, you will likely be asked to adjust your behaviour or leave the group process entirely. \nEntering a sex-positive spaceWorking with the eros as a group process often raises questions about sexuality\, nakedness and consent\, especially when using modalities from the space in between esoterism and sadomasochism. Most bluntly\, people ask Andy if it’s a swinger’s party or an orgy that they are going to. Or if something that is often considered very private or even sacred to them will be kept safe in the presence of others. \nThe best answer Andy can give is by defining a sex-positive space. \nBasically\, it means welcoming all forms of sexuality\, and very importantly\, that includes no sexuality. It’s a sex-positive space\, not a sex-mandatory one. It includes all forms of orientation\, like genders\, sexes\, practices\, kinks\, devotions\, or fetishisations. \nSimultaneously\, it’s not a “safe space” nor a separatist space for any one kind of orientation. It praises the idea from BDSM that “Your Kink Is Not My Kink\, But Your Kink Is Okay”\, which means if another person’s sexual orientation is triggering to you\, then you move yourself elsewhere. But\, still\, everyone is submitting themselves to a shared and often fairly particular theme\, and if you deviate too far from that theme\, you’ll likely and lovingly be told so. \nIt also borrows the idea from contact improvisation that “a dance” can be anything from fingers lightly touching for a fraction of a second to hours of diving deeply into slowness\, embodiment and vulnerability. And both are valued equally. It aims to abandon the normative relationship escalator\, which assumes that A must lead to B and C\, a flirtatious compliment to a coffee\, a date to a kiss\, Netflix and chill to a one-night-stand\, an innocent play to a long-term relationship. Instead\, it invites you to relinquish your (and society’s) expectations and discover something uniquely unknown. \nObviously\, consent and consciousness are essential. You’ll (almost) always be given an elegant and gradual way of escalating and de-escalating interactions that are slow and defined enough so you can remain conscious about what you are getting yourself into (or out of). \nThat being said\, sex-positive spaces do not replace therapy and depend on you and your nervous system being able to navigate a space of both intense and intimate human interaction. In the end\, a sex-positive space is a space to celebrate the diversity and creativity of the eros in all its shapes and forms. And Andy (and the Refugium) are genuinely sorry that they can’t provide a more scientific description\, so in the end\, we have to ask your trust to take a step into this mystery called life. \nHopefully\, we got you. And no\, it’s not a swingers party nor an eye-gazing contest. \nConsent\, safer sex and trauma awarenessWhile consent\, safer sex\, and trauma awareness are paramount in Andy's group processes\, they don't offer a beginner-friendly nor theoretical introduction to the topic\, like twenty good questions to ask when engaging with a new play partner\, extensive self-inquiries on knowing what you want and how to communicate that\, or learning how to interact with an unknown body for the first time. \n„Don't get me wrong\," Andy explains\, „you'll get to practice these skills in every exercise\, but I will assume you already have a basic knowledge of them. Instead\, I aim to help you dive deeper into these often emotionally fraught waters of intimacy and not knowing. One that\, in an embodied way\, balances artfully and respectfully between safety and bravery." \nHow consent\, safer sex and trauma awareness are dealt with differs substantially in different cultures and communities\, so we will communicate in person how it works in each of the spaces Andy offers\, as it also varies based on the topic and level. \nIf you want an introduction to Andy's somewhat paradoxical landscape of knowing what one wants\, check out Chapter 2: While We Fall in his book Rituals and Paradoxes. Andy recommends that you travel with your own "safer sex kit" that might include disinfectant gel\, emergency snacks\, ear plugs\, warm blanket\, and yes maybe condoms. In the end\, you know your needs; if you don't\, it's time to start reflecting upon them. \nIf you are looking for that introduction to consent\, Andy recommends getting familiar with the work of Betty Martin and their School of Consent.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/power-andy-buru-16-10-2026/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
CATEGORIES:BDSM
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SUMMARY:Mindful Fisting – Practical and Sober
DESCRIPTION:This workshop is for you if:… you’ve always been fascinated by fisting\, whether as a Top (giving person) or Bottom (receiving person). \n… you want practical information and direct guidance to be able to fist relaxed and pleasurably. \nWho is the workshop for?This workshop is open to people of all sexual orientations or gender identities. We will cover both anal and vaginal/fronthole fisting. \nDescription:Deep conversations and introductory arguments with Alexander Hahne \nWhether you call it fisting\, fist-fucking\, or something else: inserting your whole hand into another person’s body creates a very intense sensation. But how exactly does it work? This practical workshop provides insights into anatomy\, preparation\, toys\, and execution.   \nWe will discuss both anal and vaginal/fronthole fisting\, the latter with the support of Jay Stark. \nIn addition to the theory\, you will receive support for your practical experimentation\, for all those who are present in an appropriate constellation and would like support. \nThe workshop is designed for individuals and couple or poly constellations. You don’t need to bring a fistee (fisting bottom) or top if you only want to listen. \nAbout the facilitators:As a consultant for sexual health in the field of sexual education and body awareness for adults\, Alexander offers guidance for individuals and couple/poly constellations\, lectures\, further training\, in-house training\, and teaching in the areas of sexual health\, intimacy\, sexuality\, body awareness\, trans\, and non-binary. \nIn the field of practical sexual education\, Alexander designs group processes for sexual learning for adults. Furthermore\, Alexander supports film and performance productions with intimacy coordination and process guidance. \nPrices & Tickets:Book your ticket securely and quickly via Eventfrog. (Link to follow) \nWhat to bringYou will receive a detailed packing list with plenty of notice.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/mindful-fisting-practical-and-sober/
CATEGORIES:BDSM,Sexual Education
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SUMMARY:Desire – Beyond D/s with Andy Buru
DESCRIPTION:The “Desire” workshop is for you if you:… have already attended Andy Buru’s “Power” workshop.… have extensive experience in power play and are familiar with Andy Buru’s philosophy.… have extensive experience in BDSM and are open to new impulses. \nImportant notes:This workshop is for individuals. You will come together in groups of three or four for exercises and also be active in groups.It is a sex-positive workshop\, not a sex-mandatory one.The workshop will be held in English. No translation will be provided.   \nDescription:While Andy Buru’s POWER workshop relies heavily on the duality of polarity\, DESIRE goes beyond this. Instead of working in couples\, we always work in trios and quadruples\, solo by ourselves or together with the entire group.  \nWe deliberately avoid simple polarities like dominant/submissive\, leader/follower\, etc.\, as these have already been sufficiently explored. But there is a deeper reason: growing up in today’s society\, most things get polarised\, into black or white\, left-wing or right-wing\, masculine or feminine. Similarly\, many concepts work by comparison; something is hot because something else is cold\, and someone wins because another loses. \nThe esoteric eros is different because it embraces the ever-changing complexity of things and attempts to play with them in a win-win situation. Expect cognitive dissonance instead of straightforward truths because that is how the eros works – it’s a messy maze of desire filled with opportunities to explore.  \nHow do we know what to pursue intimately with others\, and what should remain a private feverish daydream? It all comes down to being safe\, brave\, and vulnerable enough to share it. It’s not about you and the love of your life\, happily married forever after\, as promised in the fairytale of duality.   \nInstead\, it’s about being adopted into an ensemble of elegance and absurdity\, where your forbidden desires appear petite and playful – BUT without turning into a circus or joking away the seriousness of the situation. \nThis is the balancing act I offer you. And I do it because your desire deserves it.  \nScheduleFriday – 2:00 PM to 10:00 PMSaturday – 10:00 AM to 9:00 PMSunday – 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM \nEach day includes a flexible lunch break. \nPrices & Tickets:Regular price: 350 € \nEarly bird price: 320 € if you book by December 31\, 2026. \nSecure your spot now via Eventfrog (link to follow). \nWhat to bring\na wearable symbol of being the top/master/queen of motherfucking everything—like a grandmother’s diamond tiara\, Tom-of-Finland leather pants\, or your Masonic purple silk robe\na wearable symbol of being the bottom/servant/slave—maybe your dog’s collar\, most trashy lingerie\, or a royal butler’s suit\nsomething that transforms your face – like a papier-mâché carnival mask\, a hand-knitted pink balaclava\, or a shiny black latex hood\na hand mirror (or other reflective surface) – to perceive yourself as someone else\na washing kit – with a water container\, a washcloth\, soap\, and a towel\nan item of consequence—like a headmistress’s whip\, a headmaster’s cane\, or a heavy wooden spoon\nan object worthy of a (human) altar – something to balance that must not break\nsomething you love to be fed—plus a golden tray\, a vintage dish or a dirty dog bowl for serving it\na fetish object – forbidden and taboo\, but at the same time exciting and liberating – an object with divine power\nthree sets of plain black clothing – to remain anonymous\n\nAbout Andy Buru:Born in Sweden but professionally nomadic\, Andy Buru has spent the last twenty-five years as an obsessed slave\, leather daddy\, hedonist\, purist\, magician\, and princess slut. \nAs a young kinky boi\, Andy spent 2004 and 2005 wandering the alleys of Kabukichō\, Tokyo\, learning the ropes from people like Yukinaga Max\, the young Yukimura. Later\, Andy discovered the Berlin community of Schwelle7 and Xplore\, where art and sexuality intersect – and where Andy still teaches today.  \nIn 2017\, Andy gently said goodbye to the ordinary world\, giving up a career as an organizational coach at a large international tech company to dedicate life to teaching\, writing\, and embodying sadomasochism as a lived research practice. Today\, Andy spends six months a year traveling and teaching\, and the other six months studying subjects like tea\, flowers\, and theater\, often in the misty mountains of Kumano\, Japan.  \nIn 2024\, Andy published the book “Rituals and Paradoxes: The Intimacy of Belonging in Sadomasochism and Esoteric Eroticism.”You can buy it on Andy’s website or listen to it on Spotify. \nFurther readingAlthough no preparation is required for this workshop\, it is worthwhile to explore Andy Buru's perspective. \n\nCelebrating The Unknown\nTransforming Fantasies Into Rituals\nThe Importance Of Rituals\nServing And Voyeurism\nPlaying With Persona\nBeing Fetish\nDedication\nThe Little Book Of Rituals
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/desire-beyond-d-s-with-andy-buru/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
CATEGORIES:BDSM
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