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SUMMARY:Kinky Flow Massage Ritual
DESCRIPTION:This workshop is for you if:… you want to touch people’s soul\, in a conscious way. \n… you’re curious about how to incorporate imagination and mental imagery into a session. \n… you want to learn something new. \nWho is the workshop for?Individuals or partner constellations (not a couples workshop) \nNo previous experience in massage or kink necessary. \nYou can find out more about Kinky Flow here in the interview with Jana: \nDescription:At first glance\, Lomi Lomi-inspired sensual massage and the world of kink seem full of contradictions. \nKink is about the consensual exploration of intense stimulation\, sensations\, and feelings\, and the conscious exploration of surrender\, vulnerability\, and power. It includes fiery aspects of desire and erotica\, but can also be meditative\, relaxing\, or playful. “To be able to let yourself go without being dropped…” a participant told us after our workshop.   \nIn traditional Hawaiian Lomi Lomi massage\, broad\, sweeping strokes flow from head to toe\, simultaneously over and under the entire body. It’s like being embraced by the swirling waves of the ocean and its quiet depths. Simply surrendering into loving hands\, into warm\, soothing touch. Feeling grounded and deeply moved.    \nKinky Flow is created when we merge the security-providing qualities of Lomi touch with creative\, loving\, and erotic elements from kink. A practice of its own\, something completely new!  \nWe will explore how to gradually infuse dominance into massage practice\, how to develop empathy and non-verbal communication\, how to negotiate consent\, and how to create a safe space. \nWe will playfully integrate kink into a range of gentle dominance practices: e.g.\, playing with shame\, being visible with your own desire\, and staging surprising moments. But also physically: light strikes (spanking)\, hair pulling\, body fixation\, seduction\, and denial.  \nKinky Flow celebrates the combination of sensual massage and kink and their shared core principle: listening deeply to the body with empathy and respect – to support it in embarking on a unique inner journey\, discovering other aspects of oneself\, and perhaps even finding new perspectives. \nPleasure happens between the ears!Therefore\, alongside the practice\, we will focus extensively on one of our favorite topics: imagination and your own “mental cinema.” A valuable quality that requires awareness to be stimulated.  \nJana and Stefano’s approach is playful\, creative\, and intuitive\, based on trust and consent. Their rich experience gives you impulses on how to find a YES to your power and vulnerability\, intimacy and surrender with joy and curiosity.  \nYou will get to know new principles (instead of just following techniques). You will experience how your inner attitude can support you when you link action and emotions. Above all\, you will learn to trust yourself when leading and/or surrendering. You will become increasingly confident in building a dynamic arc of tension for the intensity of a session\, reading body language\, and letting yourself be guided by the pleasurable desire of the person receiving.    \nDuring these three days\, Jana and Stefano see themselves as your travel companions. They guide you lovingly and challenge you—on the way to your adventure\, an encounter with yourself.  \nPlay with us and rediscover yourself! In the end\, we surprise ourselves. \nSCHEDULEDay 1: Basics of Lomi Lomi Massage \nDay 2: Basics of kink\, consent (recognizing and communicating your own desires and boundaries) + play options \nDay 3: Deepening Kinky Flow as a Kinky Massage Ritual \nEach day you will have the opportunity to give and receive one massage. \nAbout the facilitators:Jana and Stefano have been inspiring people with their Kinky Flow workshops for many years. Both are body workers and massage instructors at Lomi-Ausbildung-Berlin. Jana is also a breath therapist and Stefano is a dancer (Butoh).   \nBoth Jana and Stefano have extensive BDSM and kink experience. \nPrices & Tickets:Tickets are available via Eventfrog. \nWhat to bringYou will receive a detailed packing list with plenty of notice. \nNotes:This is a mixed-gender workshop. All identities and orientations are welcome.  A workshop for individuals and partner constellations (not a couples workshop). \nConsent is the basis for our interaction: we encourage you to be brave and careful\, to communicate your own needs and boundaries\, to take self-responsibility\, and to absolutely respect the boundaries of others.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/kinky-flow-massage-ritual/
LOCATION:Bayern
CATEGORIES:BDSM,Lomi Lomi
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SUMMARY:Power – Dominance and submission with Andy Buru
DESCRIPTION:This workshop is for you if you:… are open to throwing your assumptions on BDSM and power dynamics over board.\n… are interested in exploring eros in a slow\, mindful way.\n… want to feel more with less.\n… want to explore your dominant side.\n… are looking for inspiration for your play. \nImportant notes:This workshop is for individuals. You’ll pair up in exercises and also join trios. You can always decline or sit out an exercise.\nIt is a sex-positive workshop\, not a sex-mandatory one.\nAlso\, the workshop is in English. No translation will be provided. \nDescription:Andy Buru‘s three-day experience on exploring POWER has been attracting international audiences since 2019. While the theme has remained the same\, the structure is constantly evolving. The group processes focus on the philosophical\, emotional\, or spiritual aspects of the eros\, not detailed teaching of techniques. \nRefugium founders Christian and Jay attended POWER in 2025\, and left forever changed. „I came to explore my dominant side\,“ says Jay\, „but discovered way more about my submission.“ \n\n„Power is the best workshop on BDSM dynamics I‘ve ever attended.“\n– Christian\, Refugium Founder \n\nHow does one explore power in the context of BDSM?\nAndy Buru will guide the group through a series of exercises designed to explore the facets of conscious power exchange. Core principles are of course consent. Andy will show how you can establish consent for the particular exercise with nonverbal communication. It‘s always clear if we are in play or outside of it.\nThis invites slowness. Feeling more with less. POWER does not teach the flashy techniques of BDSM but instead helps you find your inner truth. \nFor details see the „Freedoms & Responsibilities“ section below. \n\n„In a way\, it’s like a game of edging – coitus reservatus – to retain the energy within oneself – to ride the high\, higher and higher – with no goal other than to remain in the power play. If I\, as the dominant\, would instantly reach for my ultimate desire\, our scene would end shortly – even prematurely\, I would argue. If the pain and pleasure intensified too rapidly\, or if I would unearth every fetish and fantasy I ever had\, basically spurting the last drops of life\, metaphorically speaking\, of course – no more mystery would remain.“ \n\nBut the temptation is always there\, taunting us to lose control. Andy will show you glimpses of how you can attempt to remain\, „teasing myself indefinitely in these ritualic plays of the esoteric eros. How can I do that as the dominant without losing my vulnerability? Without numbing out my emotions\, without losing my deviant creativity\, without burning out as a give-always-and-only kink dispenser. We relentlessly keep exploring this paradox of power\, and that exploration is my invitation to you.“ \nScheduleFriday – 2pm to 10pm\nSaturday – 10am to 7pm\nRitualistic Play Party – 8pm to 10pm at Refugium Divine\nSunday – 10am to 6pm \nEach day will have a flexible lunch break. \nPrices & Tickets:Regular price: 350€ \nEarly Bird price: 320€ if you book before May 31st\, 2026. \nSecure your spot now via Eventfrog. \nWhat to bring\ncomfortable clothes for moving on the floor\nelegant\, fetishistic and/or hedonistic clothes for moving in hierarchies\nclothes for being messy\, or a readiness to be more naked\na tool for stingy pain\, maybe your grandma’s wooden kitchen spoon to an artisan-made 24-plait kangaroo leather single-tail\npen and paper for notetaking\n\nAbout Andy Buru:Born in Sweden but professionally nomadic\, Andy Buru spent the past twenty-five years as an owned slave\, a leather daddy\, a hedonist\, a purist\, a magician\, and a princess slut. \nAs a young kinky boi\, they spent the years of 2004 and 2005 roaming the backstreets of Kabukichö\, Tokyo and learning the ropes from people like Yukinaga Max\, the little/young Yukimura. Later\, they discovered the Berlin-based community of Schwelle7 and Xplore\, where art and sexuality intersect-and where they still teach today. \nIn 2017\, Andy made a smooth departure from the ordinary world\, ditching a career as an organisational coach at a large international tech company to dedicate their life to teaching\, writing\, and embodying sadomasochism as a lived research practice. Nowadays\, they spend six months of the year travelling and teaching\, and the other six months studying subjects such as tea\, flowers\, and theatre\, often in the misty mountains of Kumano\, Japan. \nIn 2024\, Andy released their book Rituals and Paradoxes: The Intimacy of Belonging in Sadomasochism and Esoteric Eroticism.\nYou can buy it on Andy‘s website or listen to it on Spotify. \nFurther readingWhile no preparation for this workshop is required\, Andy Buru's take on esoteric eroticism and ritualistic Sadomasochism is worth exploring. \n\nOne Take On Explaining Sadomasochism\nHow Do I Know If I Can Sacrifice Myself?\nExposing The Five Taboos Of Sadomasochism\nFour Languages Of Power\nDominance In Balance\nAdvice For The Dom At Heart\nAftercare For The Vulnerable Dominant\nListening Is The First Step To Domination\nBeing Clear About Pain\n\nFreedoms and responsibilitiesParticipating in these group processes is intimate and vulnerable. It is always a balancing act between freedom and responsibility – or selfishness and self-sacrifice – or safety and bravery. \nFinding oneself in either extreme can result in paralyzing fear or traumatizing chaos. Dancing on this slackline of mystery is the fundamental skill we practice together. \nBelow are seven almost universal freedoms and responsibilities to help you navigate these intimate and vulnerable spaces. \n1. Settle the score before you leave\nTo play\, one must be vulnerable. To be vulnerable\, one must trust. To trust\, one must know that someone will help ‘settle the score’ when hardship happens – that you are not alone. Preferably all the persons involved in whatever happened. Listening\, assuming accountability\, and saying I’m sorry often go a long way. Sometimes more is needed\, but at least by being there\, you enable this process. Leaving without settling the score means unfinished business and long-term damage to the social web we are trying to weave. \n2. Don’t kiss and tell\nAlso\, to be vulnerable\, one must trust that what I share with you – in words and actions – remains safe with you. You can always talk about your own experiences\, what happened to you\, and what you felt. But leave everyone else involved anonymous by not mentioning their names and being thoughtful with what details you reveal about them. \n3. Don’t cockblock vulnerability\nSimilarly\, to be vulnerable\, one must trust that vulnerability is met with respect. When uncomfortable with others’ vulnerability\, one often tries to make the vulnerable moments disappear by arguing for solutions\, diverting attention to silly jokes\, playing the devil’s advocate or playing the overprotective saviour. If someone can express their vulnerability in a storm of intense emotions\, watch them in awe – you likely have something to learn from them. You enable others’ vulnerability by being vulnerable yourself; you cockblock vulnerability by playing the tough guy who doesn’t give a shit about anything. \n4. Welcome all your emotions\nWhen I demonstrate a particular exercise\, there will be an emotional\, non-verbal dialogue with my assistant. Don’t try to copy our experience. Instead\, have your own journey. For me\, a group process is perfect when someone is laughing\, another is crying\, a third is moaning\, a fourth is confused\, and so on. Know that all parts of you are welcome. \n5. No fucking charity\nYou’ll pair up in exercises\, join trios and quadruplets\, and do group rituals. Even if you promised someone beforehand\, and it doesn’t feel right in the moment\, listen to the latter. Don’t do things out of charity. I take pride in trying to provide structures where it’s easy to opt out without creating an awkward situation for anyone. \n6. Play inside the play\, not outside\nDuring our group processes\, we have moments inside and outside of play. And we have rituals\, signs\, and language to move in and out. Some examples are entering a circle to indicate our willingness to play\, placing our arms across the chest for a break\, kneeling as a sign of submission\, and establishing eye contact before body contact. \nThe exact semantics may change\, but you must learn to distinguish and respect when play is happening and not. Inside\, you may play with power\, be seduced by it\, revel in it\, or rebel against it. Outside play\, avoid being a macho or mothering dominant\, as well as a helpless submissive or an assholish trickster. \n7. Knowing\, not knowing\nI’m not your Guru Buru\, nor your mommy or daddy. If anything I say doesn’t make sense to you\, don’t do it. Similarly\, the group processes are appreciated because they focus on the philosophical\, emotional\, or spiritual aspects of the eros\, not detailed teaching of techniques.\nSuppose a specific skill is foreign to you (like face slapping\, choking\, tying a rope around the neck\, pushing trigger points in the diaphragm\, guiding the spine through twisting the neck\, etc.); it is your responsibility to acknowledge this. Recognising the unknown can be tricky\, but it’s an essential meta-skill to manage risk-taking in your play. However\, the exact technique is often not the main point\, so you can ask me for an alternative or simply do your own thing. Sometimes\, I’ll also have time to guide you step-by-step. You can also ask before attending if you are worried that your previous experience isn’t enough. \nIf this text seems complicated to you…\n… you likely have a lot to learn from sharing intimate and vulnerable experiences in a group. Please notify the organizers if this is the case so I can keep an extra eye on you. If you have any questions or concerns\, feel free to ask beforehand or during the group process itself. If you have a lot of previous experience or a more senior position in the group\, I will have higher expectations of you to act as a role model. If you are new and insecure\, you’ll likely have more leeway to learn our culture. If you are deemed unable or unwilling to comply\, you will likely be asked to adjust your behaviour or leave the group process entirely. \nEntering a sex-positive spaceWorking with the eros as a group process often raises questions about sexuality\, nakedness and consent\, especially when using modalities from the space in between esoterism and sadomasochism. Most bluntly\, people ask Andy if it’s a swinger’s party or an orgy that they are going to. Or if something that is often considered very private or even sacred to them will be kept safe in the presence of others. \nThe best answer Andy can give is by defining a sex-positive space. \nBasically\, it means welcoming all forms of sexuality\, and very importantly\, that includes no sexuality. It’s a sex-positive space\, not a sex-mandatory one. It includes all forms of orientation\, like genders\, sexes\, practices\, kinks\, devotions\, or fetishisations. \nSimultaneously\, it’s not a “safe space” nor a separatist space for any one kind of orientation. It praises the idea from BDSM that “Your Kink Is Not My Kink\, But Your Kink Is Okay”\, which means if another person’s sexual orientation is triggering to you\, then you move yourself elsewhere. But\, still\, everyone is submitting themselves to a shared and often fairly particular theme\, and if you deviate too far from that theme\, you’ll likely and lovingly be told so. \nIt also borrows the idea from contact improvisation that “a dance” can be anything from fingers lightly touching for a fraction of a second to hours of diving deeply into slowness\, embodiment and vulnerability. And both are valued equally. It aims to abandon the normative relationship escalator\, which assumes that A must lead to B and C\, a flirtatious compliment to a coffee\, a date to a kiss\, Netflix and chill to a one-night-stand\, an innocent play to a long-term relationship. Instead\, it invites you to relinquish your (and society’s) expectations and discover something uniquely unknown. \nObviously\, consent and consciousness are essential. You’ll (almost) always be given an elegant and gradual way of escalating and de-escalating interactions that are slow and defined enough so you can remain conscious about what you are getting yourself into (or out of). \nThat being said\, sex-positive spaces do not replace therapy and depend on you and your nervous system being able to navigate a space of both intense and intimate human interaction. In the end\, a sex-positive space is a space to celebrate the diversity and creativity of the eros in all its shapes and forms. And Andy (and the Refugium) are genuinely sorry that they can’t provide a more scientific description\, so in the end\, we have to ask your trust to take a step into this mystery called life. \nHopefully\, we got you. And no\, it’s not a swingers party nor an eye-gazing contest. \nConsent\, safer sex and trauma awarenessWhile consent\, safer sex\, and trauma awareness are paramount in Andy's group processes\, they don't offer a beginner-friendly nor theoretical introduction to the topic\, like twenty good questions to ask when engaging with a new play partner\, extensive self-inquiries on knowing what you want and how to communicate that\, or learning how to interact with an unknown body for the first time. \n„Don't get me wrong\," Andy explains\, „you'll get to practice these skills in every exercise\, but I will assume you already have a basic knowledge of them. Instead\, I aim to help you dive deeper into these often emotionally fraught waters of intimacy and not knowing. One that\, in an embodied way\, balances artfully and respectfully between safety and bravery." \nHow consent\, safer sex and trauma awareness are dealt with differs substantially in different cultures and communities\, so we will communicate in person how it works in each of the spaces Andy offers\, as it also varies based on the topic and level. \nIf you want an introduction to Andy's somewhat paradoxical landscape of knowing what one wants\, check out Chapter 2: While We Fall in his book Rituals and Paradoxes. Andy recommends that you travel with your own "safer sex kit" that might include disinfectant gel\, emergency snacks\, ear plugs\, warm blanket\, and yes maybe condoms. In the end\, you know your needs; if you don't\, it's time to start reflecting upon them. \nIf you are looking for that introduction to consent\, Andy recommends getting familiar with the work of Betty Martin and their School of Consent.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/power-andy-buru-16-10-2026/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
CATEGORIES:BDSM
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SUMMARY:Mindful Fisting – Practical and Sober
DESCRIPTION:This workshop is for you if:… you’ve always been fascinated by fisting\, whether as a Top (giving person) or Bottom (receiving person). \n… you want practical information and direct guidance to be able to fist relaxed and pleasurably. \nWho is the workshop for?This workshop is open to people of all sexual orientations or gender identities. We will cover both anal and vaginal/fronthole fisting. \nDescription:Deep conversations and introductory arguments with Alexander Hahne \nWhether you call it fisting\, fist-fucking\, or something else: inserting your whole hand into another person’s body creates a very intense sensation. But how exactly does it work? This practical workshop provides insights into anatomy\, preparation\, toys\, and execution.   \nWe will discuss both anal and vaginal/fronthole fisting\, the latter with the support of Jay Stark. \nIn addition to the theory\, you will receive support for your practical experimentation\, for all those who are present in an appropriate constellation and would like support. \nThe workshop is designed for individuals and couple or poly constellations. You don’t need to bring a fistee (fisting bottom) or top if you only want to listen. \nAbout the facilitators:As a consultant for sexual health in the field of sexual education and body awareness for adults\, Alexander offers guidance for individuals and couple/poly constellations\, lectures\, further training\, in-house training\, and teaching in the areas of sexual health\, intimacy\, sexuality\, body awareness\, trans\, and non-binary. \nIn the field of practical sexual education\, Alexander designs group processes for sexual learning for adults. Furthermore\, Alexander supports film and performance productions with intimacy coordination and process guidance. \nPrices & Tickets:Register by email at info@refugium-aschaffenburg.de. You’ll then receive all the payment details. \nWhat to bringYou will receive a detailed packing list with plenty of notice.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/mindful-fisting-practical-and-sober/
LOCATION:Bayern
CATEGORIES:BDSM,Sexual Education
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SUMMARY:Mindful Fisting for Professionals
DESCRIPTION:This workshop is for you if:… you work with people and sexuality\, whether in counseling\, education\, massage\, or sex work. \n… you’ve always been fascinated by fisting\, whether as a Top (giving person) or Bottom (receiving person). \n… you want practical information and direct guidance to be able to fist relaxed and pleasurably. \nWho is the workshop for?This workshop is open to professionals of all sexual orientations and gender identities. We will cover both anal and vaginal/fronthole fisting. \nDescription:Are you active in sexual counseling\, sex education\, or sex work and want to know more about fisting? \nThen deep conversations and introductory arguments with Alexander Hahne await you here. \nWhether you call it fisting\, fist-fucking\, or something else: inserting your whole hand into another person’s body creates a very intense sensation. But how exactly does it work? This practical workshop provides insights into anatomy\, preparation\, toys\, and execution. \nWe will discuss both anal and vaginal/fronthole fisting. \nIn addition to the theory\, you will receive support for your practical experimentation\, for all those who are present in an appropriate constellation and would like support. \nThe workshop is designed for individuals and couple or poly constellations. You don’t need to bring a fistee (fisting bottom) or top if you only want to listen. \nAbout the facilitators:As a consultant for sexual health in the field of sexual education and body awareness for adults\, Alexander offers guidance for individuals and couple/poly constellations\, lectures\, further training\, in-house training\, and teaching in the areas of sexual health\, intimacy\, sexuality\, body awareness\, trans\, and non-binary. \nIn the field of practical sexual education\, Alexander designs group processes for sexual learning for adults. Furthermore\, Alexander supports film and performance productions with intimacy coordination and process guidance. \nPrices & Tickets:Register bindingly via email at info@refugium-aschaffenburg.de. Afterwards\, you will receive all payment details. Invoices are possible. As a professional\, you can claim this workshop as a continuing education measure. \nWhat to bringYou will receive a detailed packing list with plenty of notice.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/mindful-fisting-for-professionals/
LOCATION:Bayern
CATEGORIES:BDSM,Sexual Education
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SUMMARY:Easy Ties on the Floor for Play & Sex
DESCRIPTION:“Easy ties on the floor” is for you\, if…… you want to use rope for intimacy and connection\, not just technical patterns. \n… you’re curious about building erotic tension\, presence\, and anticipation on the floor. \n… you enjoy creating scenes that grow out of chemistry with your partner rather than fixed choreography. \n… you’re comfortable with basic floor ties and want to make them expressive and playful. \n… you’d rather explore vulnerability\, exposure\, and connection than chase complexity. \nFor whom is this workshop?This workshop is open to couples and practice pairs who are comfortable with basic floor ties and fundamental rope handling\, i.e. single-column tie\, double column tie\, friction and tension. \nNo suspension experience is required. \nBecause many of the exercises explore intimacy\, we strongly recommend attending with a partner with whom you share good chemistry and feel comfortable exploring this kind of interaction. Feeling safe and relaxed\, and being able to communicate openly\, will help you get the most out of the day. \nDescription:Rope is more than structure — it is a language of communication\, intention\, and connection. In this workshop\, we’ll explore how to create playful\, intimate\, and emotionally engaging interactions on the floor\, using rope to build erotic tension and presence without relying on technically demanding patterns. \nThrough guided exercises\, we’ll focus on body positioning\, distance\, rhythm\, pacing\, intentional touch\, and simple yet effective restraint. We will also explore elements of body handling and body manipulation\, offering additional tools for creating fluid and dynamic floor-based interactions. \nRather than chasing complexity\, we’ll explore how practical and simple ties can become powerful tools for creating anticipation\, vulnerability\, exposure\, and genuine connection while remaining responsive to our partner’s reactions.\nParticipants are encouraged not just to repeat the techniques\, but to use them as ingredients to create small\, authentic scenes that reflect their own dynamics\, curiosity\, and chemistry. \nThe goal is to build confidence\, creativity\, and adaptability\, allowing each exchange to evolve naturally from the interaction between partners rather than from predetermined choreography. \nBy the end of the workshop\, participants will have practical tools for creating expressive\, playful\, and emotionally rich floor-based scenes where rope supports the interaction instead of dominating it. \nSchedule11.50 am: doors open \n12-6pm: workshop time including breaks \nExact break times will be set on the day\, depending on the group. \nAbout the instructors:Vik (Victor) and Gala run Shizen Studio in Barcelona\, a creative space dedicated to Japanese rope art. Their teaching centers on shibari as a practice of mindfulness\, connection\, and trust — rope as a way to meet another person with attention and care. We first encountered their work at a performance in Switzerland and were immediately captivated by the presence and intimacy they create with rope. Afterwards\, we booked a private session with them\, and we’re delighted to welcome them to Aschaffenburg for the first time. \nFor this first day\, Vik & Gala bring their playful\, connection-first approach to the floor: rope not as a display of skill\, but as a language for building tension\, closeness\, and genuine exchange between partners. \nPrices & tickets:\nEarly Bird (until 30 September): 160 € per pair\nRegular (from 1 October): 175 € per pair\n\nOn day two\, Vik and Gala will progress to Playful Semisuspensions. \nIf you want to attend both days\, you can buy a combi ticket: \n\nEarly Bird Combo (both days): 280 € per pair\nRegular Combo (both days): 300 € per pair\n\nPrices are per pair\, including one active Rigger and one Bunny.\nMinimum 6 pairs for the workshop to take place. Deadline is November 9th. \nSecure your spot now and write us an email to info@refugium-aschaffenburg.de. \nSee here for details about payment and registration. \nWhat to bring for “Easy Ties on the Floor”:\na set of 5 ropes incl. scissors\ncomfortable clothes\n\nPlease note:\nWorkshop language is English with no translation provided\nRegistration is per practice pair\, with one actively tying person and one being tied\nThe location is not barrier-free.\n\nSaturday evening performance\nOn Saturday evening\, Vik & Gala may present a rope performance (approx. 45 minutes) here at the Refugium. Whether it happens depends on how much interest there is\, so if you’d love to see them perform live\, let us know when you register! It helps us decide.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/easy-ties-on-the-floor/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
CATEGORIES:Bondage
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DTEND;TZID=Europe/Vienna:20261129T180000
DTSTAMP:20260827T074130Z
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SUMMARY:Playful Semisuspensions
DESCRIPTION:“Playful Semisuspensions” is for you\, if…… you have solid rope fundamentals and want to explore the space between floor and suspension. \n… you’re drawn to movement\, balance\, and dynamic play rather than fixed patterns. \n… you want to understand how small changes in tension\, timing\, and direction transform a tie. \n… you’d rather adapt and combine tools to create your own interactions than follow choreography. \n… you enjoy challenge and play while keeping your partner at the center of the experience. \nFor whom is this workshop?This workshop is accessible to different experience levels\, but you’re expected to have solid rope fundamentals: single-column ties\, double-column ties\, frictions\, counter-tension\, and kannuki. \nIf you attended the Saturday workshop (Easy Ties on the Floor)\, you’re welcome to continue into Sunday. The two days build on each other naturally. \nDescription:Semisuspensions offer a huge playground between floor work and suspension\, allowing us to use tension\, gravity\, movement\, and changing body positions while maintaining a strong connection with our partner. \nIn this workshop\, we’ll explore a series of floor-based exercises incorporating uplines and partial suspension. Rather than focusing on complex patterns or technically demanding sequences\, we’ll use relatively simple structures to discover different ways of playing with our partner’s body\, balance\, movement\, and possibilities. \nWe will explore how small changes in tension\, positioning\, direction\, and timing can completely transform a tie and the experience it creates. We will also work with elements of body handling and body manipulation\, offering additional tools for creating fluid\, dynamic\, and playful interactions between the floor and the ropes. \nThroughout the workshop\, we’ll pay particular attention to our fundamentals and how we approach semisuspensions: rope handling\, line management\, body mechanics\, positioning\, communication\, and awareness of our partner. The aim is not simply to execute the exercises\, but to understand how these tools can be adapted and combined to create our own interactions. \nParticipants will be encouraged to experiment\, play\, and respond to their partner rather than following predetermined choreography.\nThe goal is to discover how simple semisuspensions can open up a wide range of possibilities for movement\, connection\, challenge\, and play while keeping the interaction with our partner at the center of the experience. \nSchedule11.50 am: arrival and open doors \n12-6pm:  workshop including breaks \nExact break times will be set on the day and depend on the group. \nAbout the instructors:Barcelona-based Vik (Victor) and Gala are the founders of Shizen Studio\, where rope becomes a practice of trust\, awareness\, and careful attention to another person. Their work in Japanese rope bondage moves between the meditative and the dynamic\, always grounded in the connection between the two people sharing the rope. \nWe\, the Refugium founders\, met them through a performance in Switzerland that left a lasting impression\, and after taking a private course with them\, we knew we wanted to bring their approach to our community. \nOn this second day\, they turn to semisuspensions — where technique and know-how matter more\, and where their emphasis on fundamentals\, body mechanics\, and partner awareness really comes into its own. It’s the more advanced of the two days\, and it reflects the depth of experience Vik & Gala bring to their teaching. \nPrices & tickets:\nEarly Bird (until 30 September): 160 € per pair\nRegular (from 1 October): 175 € per pair\n\nOn Saturday\, Vik and Gala will show Easy Ties on the Floor for Play and Sex. \nIf you want to attend both days\, you can buy a combi ticket: \n\nEarly Bird Combo (both days): 280 € per pair\nRegular Combo (both days): 300 € per pair\n\nPrices are per pair\, including one active Rigger and one Bunny.\nMinimum 6 pairs for the workshop to take place. Deadline is November 9th. \nSecure your spot now and write us an email to info@refugium-aschaffenburg.de. \nSee here for details about payment and registration. \nWhat to bring for “Easy Ties on the Floor”:\na set of 8 ropes incl. scissors\ncomfortable clothes\n\nPlease note:\nWorkshop language is English with no translation provided\nRegistration is per practice pair\, with one actively tying person and one being tied\nThe location is not barrier-free.\n\nSaturday evening performance\nVik & Gala might round off Saturday with a live rope performance (around 45 minutes) at the Refugium. It’s still a tentative idea. We’ll go ahead if enough people want to see it. If a live performance by the two of them sounds like something you’d enjoy\, mention it when you sign up so we can gauge interest.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/playful-semisuspensions/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
CATEGORIES:Bondage
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DTSTART;TZID=Europe/Vienna:20270116T140000
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DTSTAMP:20260829T113146Z
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SUMMARY:Movement for Non-Movers
DESCRIPTION:Movement For Non-Movers is right for you if:… sit a lot and want to move more again. \n… have little or no experience with movement\, dance or bodywork. \n… feel stiff\, disconnected or unsure where to even start. \n… are curious to explore what movement can do for you and your wellbeing. \n… want to reconnect with your body without judgment or pressure. \nDescription:Maybe you’re sitting at a desk all day. Maybe it’s been years since you really moved your body. Maybe you’ve never thought of yourself as someone who “moves” at all. Maybe you’re curious to explore how movement can help improve your wellbeing – but with joy\, not pressure. Great news: This workshop is exactly for you. \nOver two afternoons\, Stefano Taiuti offers a warm\, down-to-earth way back into your own body. There’s no choreography to learn\, nothing to get “right”\, and no one watching to judge. Instead\, you’ll explore movement from the inside – through sensation\, attention and gentle curiosity – and discover that your body has far more to offer than you might think. \nYou’ll turn into a curious researcher\, expertly guided by Stefano. \nStefano knows this path from his own experience: he didn’t start moving until his early twenties\, and went on to become a dancer and performer. Today he teaches people of every background and ability\, and he has a rare gift for meeting each person exactly where they are. \nWhat you’ll take home \n\na first felt sense of what it means to come back into movement\nmore ease and awareness in your everyday body\nsimple tools to keep exploring on your own\, at home\nthe experience that moving can feel good – without pressure or performance\nmore confidence and less fear of “doing it wrong”\n\nWhat awaits you\nEach session begins with a gentle warm-up and moves into guided exploration – always at a pace that fits the group. There is floorwork (working on the ground).\nIf floorwork sounds intimidating\, don’t worry! Nothing here is set in stone. Stefano adapts the structure\, intensity and exercises to the people who show up. What happens in the room grows out of who’s in it. So you’re never pushed beyond what feels right for you. \nWhat people say:“I move around so little in everyday life\, and through this kind of work I felt how much more body work and movement would do me good. I could really feel how my muscles first tensed and then relaxed so beautifully.”\n– Stella \n“The deepening of my own body awareness and the release of movement blocks that had rusted in place over many years – exactly what I’d hoped for was fully met.”\n– Sven \nScheduleSaturday\, January 16th: 2-6 pm \nSunday\, January 17th: 2-6pm \nAbout the facilitator:Stefano Taiuti is a performance artist\, Butoh dancer and bodyworker. He came to movement later than most – in his early twenties – which is part of why he’s so at home working with people who are just beginning. For over 30 years he has been exploring the body in motion\, trained with renowned mime teachers and Butoh masters\, and developed his own methodology integrating western movement analysis with Butoh. \nThe Refugium founders Jay & Christian first met him as an instructor at the Lomi Ausbildung Berlin and brought him to Aschaffenburg for a first workshop in May 2026. \nPrices & Tickets:Want to join? Secure your ticket now! \nEarly Bird (until November 30th\, 2026): 140 € per person\nRegular: 150 € per person \nMinimum 8 participants\, registration deadline December 31st. \nRegister by email at info@refugium-aschaffenburg.de. \nHere you’ll find all information about registration and payment. \nWhat to bring\nComfortable clothing you can move in\nWater bottle\nOptional: Something to write down notes\n\nMost of all\, bring your curiosity\, your focus and your desire to explore – that’s what this workshop runs on. \nNotes:The workshop language is English. \nBasic mobility is helpful for this workshop. If you have limited mobility\, please get in touch with us before booking – we’ll gladly check together whether it’s a fit.
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/movement-for-non-movers/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
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DTSTART;TZID=Europe/Vienna:20270416T140000
DTEND;TZID=Europe/Vienna:20270418T180000
DTSTAMP:20260828T055507Z
CREATED:20260221T202235Z
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SUMMARY:Desire – Beyond D/s with Andy Buru
DESCRIPTION:The “Desire” workshop is for you if you:… have already attended Andy Buru’s “Power” workshop.\n… have extensive experience in power play and are familiar with Andy Buru’s philosophy.\n… have extensive experience in BDSM and are open to new impulses. \nImportant notes:This workshop is for individuals. You will form trios or foursomes for exercises and also be active in groups.\nIt is a sex-positive workshop\, not sex-obligatory.\nThe workshop will be held in English. No translation will be provided. \nDescription:While Andy Buru’s POWER workshop relies heavily on the duality of polarity\, DESIRE goes beyond this. Instead of working in couples\, we always work in trios and quadruples\, solo by ourselves or together with the entire group.  \nWe deliberately avoid simple polarities like dominant/submissive\, leader/follower\, etc.\, as these have already been sufficiently explored. But there is a deeper reason: growing up in today’s society\, most things get polarised\, into black or white\, left-wing or right-wing\, masculine or feminine. Similarly\, many concepts work by comparison; something is hot because something else is cold\, and someone wins because another loses. \nThe esoteric eros is different because it embraces the ever-changing complexity of things and attempts to play with them in a win-win situation. Expect cognitive dissonance instead of straightforward truths because that is how the eros works – it’s a messy maze of desire filled with opportunities to explore.  \nHow do we know what to pursue intimately with others\, and what should remain a private feverish daydream? It all comes down to being safe\, brave\, and vulnerable enough to share it. It’s not about you and the love of your life\, happily married forever after\, as promised in the fairytale of duality.   \nInstead\, it’s about being adopted into an ensemble of elegance and absurdity\, where your forbidden desires appear petite and playful – BUT without turning into a circus or joking away the seriousness of the situation. \nThis is the balancing act I offer you. And I do it because your desire deserves it. \nScheduleFriday – 2:00 PM to 10:00 PM\nSaturday – 10:00 AM to 9:00 PM\nSunday – 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM \nEach day includes a flexible lunch break. \nPrices & Tickets:Regular price: 350 € \nEarly bird price: 320 € if you book by December 31\, 2026. \nSecure your spot now! Register via info@refugium-aschaffenburg.de and pay using the information on our registration page. \nWhat to bring\na wearable symbol of being the top/master/queen of motherfucking everything—like a grandmother’s diamond tiara\, Tom-of-Finland leather pants\, or your Masonic purple silk robe\na wearable symbol of being the bottom/servant/slave—maybe your dog’s collar\, most trashy lingerie\, or a royal butler’s suit\nsomething that transforms your face – like a papier-mâché carnival mask\, a hand-knitted pink balaclava\, or a shiny black latex hood\na hand mirror (or other reflective surface) – to perceive yourself as someone else\na washing kit – with a water container\, a washcloth\, soap\, and a towel\nan item of consequence—like a headmistress’s whip\, a headmaster’s cane\, or a heavy wooden spoon\nan object worthy of a (human) altar – something to balance that must not break\nsomething you love to be fed—plus a golden tray\, a vintage dish or a dirty dog bowl for serving it\na fetish object – forbidden and taboo\, but at the same time exciting and liberating – an object with divine power\nthree sets of plain black clothing – to remain anonymous\n\nAbout Andy Buru:Born in Sweden but professionally nomadic\, Andy Buru has spent the last twenty-five years as an obsessed slave\, leather daddy\, hedonist\, purist\, magician\, and princess slut. \nAs a young kinky boi\, Andy spent 2004 and 2005 wandering the alleys of Kabukichō\, Tokyo\, learning the ropes from people like Yukinaga Max\, the young Yukimura. Later\, Andy discovered the Berlin community of Schwelle7 and Xplore\, where art and sexuality intersect – and where Andy still teaches today.  \nIn 2017\, Andy gently said goodbye to the ordinary world\, giving up a career as an organizational coach at a large international tech company to dedicate life to teaching\, writing\, and embodying sadomasochism as a lived research practice. Today\, Andy spends six months a year traveling and teaching\, and the other six months studying subjects like tea\, flowers\, and theater\, often in the misty mountains of Kumano\, Japan.  \nIn 2024\, Andy published the book “Rituals and Paradoxes: The Intimacy of Belonging in Sadomasochism and Esoteric Eroticism”.\nYou can buy it on Andy’s website or listen on Spotify. \nFurther readingAlthough no preparation is required for this workshop\, it is worthwhile to explore Andy Buru's perspective. \n\nCelebrating The Unknown\nTransforming Fantasies Into Rituals\nThe Importance Of Rituals\nServing And Voyeurism\nPlaying With Persona\nBeing Fetish\nDedication\nThe Little Book Of Rituals
URL:https://www.refugium-aschaffenburg.de/en/event/desire-beyond-d-s-with-andy-buru/
LOCATION:Refugium Aschaffenburg\, Landingstraße 10\, Aschaffenburg\, Bayern\, 63739\, Germany
CATEGORIES:BDSM
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